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(picrew)
“Gender is a dress-up game, and I choose the accessories.”
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☀️About Me☀️
➺ You can call me Georgia, Matthew, or Sphinx!➺ The full list of my preferred pronouns can be found here or here➺ I’m a 31-year-old, nonbinary trans lady! I’m also bi/pan, arospec, and polyamorous➺ This is my personal blog, and this is my educational anti-transmisogyny blog➺ You’ll find all my opinions about the usual tumblr discourse under my Terms of Interaction (ToI)➺ I reclaim “queer”; filter the tag “q word” if you’re uncomfortable with this.Checking My Privilege:➺ White/gentile/not Romani or Indigenous, USAmerican, singlet, benefited by thin privilege➺ Intersex, transmisogyny-affected, disabled/cane-user, neurodivergent, abuse victimMy Triggers/Squicks/Blacklist:
➺ Any string of angry profanities directed at me➺ Making fun of people who deliberately choose to avoid (using) profane language➺ Mentions of violence in schools (especially teacher-on-student or vice versa)➺ Anything that could be a trigger for ommetaphobia (especially closeups or exaggerations of eyes, or eyes that are rolled to one side)➺ Referring to me as a male/female, girl, or man. I’m fine with most other gendered language (e.g boy, guy, woman, sir/ma’am)
If you’re curious about my experiences with disability and neurodivergence, you may ask me about any of the following:➺ Klinefelter syndrome (47,XXY)
➺ Fibromyalgia
➺ Essential tremor
➺ Paranoid PD
➺ Bipolar II
➺ GAD
➺ Dyslexia
➺ C-PTSD
➺ Dissociative amnesia
➺ ADHD
➺ Immersive daydreaming(Please note that is not a complete list, as there are still some things I’m not fully comfortable sharing about here.)
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☀️Terms of Interaction☀️
And some of my opinions
• Important •
Do not interact with me if you are or support those who are:
• Alt-right, a neo-n*zi/fascist, a Tr*mp supporter, a capitalist or conservative of any stripe, a white nationalist, an anti-SJW/anti-feminist, or anti-antifa
• An Islamo-misiac, an antisemite, antiBlack/anti-BLM, support “Blue/All Lives Matter,” or are otherwise a racist
• A p*do or p*do/rape/abuse apologist
• Ableist
• Pro-ana, anti-body positivity, support thinspo/fitspo, or are otherwise fat-misic
• Against decriminalizing sex work, don’t support sex workers’ rights, are vehemently anti-kink, or are otherwise sex-negative (note: I mean in general, not sex-repulsed on an individual scale)
• Transmisic/exorsexist, transmisogynistic, inter-misic, amisic, or otherwise LGBTQ+-misic
• A believer in bad science (including belief in “pro-life” arguments, anti-vaccination arguments, climate change denial, evolution denial, or “brain sex”)
• Someone who wants to send me something you think I’ll find offensive/bigoted/problematic for the sole purpose of offending or “triggering” meInteraction from any of the above will result in a block 99% of the time. My posts are not, in any way, made for you. I tend to ignore anon hate unless I think it can be useful in making a point for those who will actually listen.*-misia/-misic/-misiac are alternative suffixes to -phobia/-phobic/-phobe which are more accurate and do not mischaracterize people with phobias as being hateful of or bigoted toward the subject of their phobia.
• Other Info •
Asking Questions & Making Requests:The primary purpose of this blog is to:
• Help coin new MOGAI terms
• Help design new pride flags
• Help locate specific terms, flags, or sets of pronouns
• Answer questions & offer advice relating to gender & orientation
I’m not an expert in any of these areas, of course; I’d just like to pitch in wherever I can.
I’m open to taking requests for aesthetic flags, themed flags, “joke” flags, combos (including “stacking” flags and “splicing” them), and attractional flags. The only stuff I won’t even consider is, of course, anything extremely gross or problematic (like flags with racist/transmisic implications or anything to do with “MAPs”).
I honestly don’t care if an asker is an obvious troll. I find the act of making flags and coining terms to be relaxing and fun. Again, as long as it’s not for something problematic (or something that makes me personally uncomfortable), I’ll take any request. If this makes you uncomfortable, please let me know.A Few Disclaimers:
I have issues with memory and reading comprehension. Please be patient with me if I forget something, misunderstand you, or ask you to reword something.I’m dyslexic and sometimes make peculiar grammatical & spelling errors. I appreciate having these pointed out to me as quickly as possible so I can edit them.I may come across as needlessly skeptical, overly-critical, or argumentative at times. This is because I have paranoid PD and sometimes don’t recognize how abrasive I’m being, but I appreciate being called out for it so I can take a step back and reassess my actions.Naturally, due to my PPD, I deal with a lot of paranoia. If you ask me a question about my personal life and I don’t feel comfortable sharing, please don’t take it personally or feel like you’ve done anything wrong. I’m working on being a more trusting person, but I need a little patience and understanding.My offline interactions with LGBTQ+ people, folks of other marginalized identities, and even other leftists in general are very limited due to where I live. Because of that, there are certain things I’m going to be very ignorant about, but I appreciate it when people take the time to call me out so I can learn and better educate myself. I’m definitely trying, but learning is a lifelong process.
☀️Tag List☀️
(Will continue updating)
Not a complete list, just a guide to the tags I use most often/tags that might be importantNote: I may eventually return to this system, but as of right now, my tagging is extremely inconsistent.
Content warning / Trigger warning - post contains sensitive and/or potentially triggering content (will ALWAYS tag specifics; ask to tag)Genders - post relates to gender identities and/or gender-related terminology
Orientations - post relates to orientations and/or related terminology
Attractions - post relates to different forms of attraction
Pronouns - post is about pronouns (also tagged with “new pronouns”)
Gender alignments - post relates to gender alignments
Gender expressions / presentations - post relates to gender expressions or presentations
Gender aesthetics - post relates to specific, gender (expression)-related aesthetics/aesthetic terminologyTagged Categories:
• nonbinary, abinary, anonbinary, nontrinary, atrinary, unbinary, antibinary
• mesobinary, exobinary, ideobinary, viabinary
• miaspec, fiaspec, liaspec, niaspec, xiaspec, aiaspec, agiaspec, fluid spec, flux spec, polygen spec
• fin, min, lin, nin, xin, ain, agin [-genders]
• xenogenders, aesthetigenders, synesgenders, kingenders, condigenders, neurogenders, sentiogenders, orientationgenders, affinitive genders
• aspec (acespec, arospec), mspec, amplusic, ultric, affinitive, amative, neuro orientations
• mlm, wlw, nblnb, etc.
• neopronouns, nounself pronouns, emojiself pronouns
• feminine, masculine, androgynous, ambiguous, neutral, xenine, outherine
• polyam, nonmono
• intersex identities, intersex terminologyTerms - post includes (usually new) LGBTQ/MOGAI terms
• Combo terms: post is specific for coining new term(s) that combine(s) existing terms into a new identity
Definitions - post includes the definitions for featured terms
Flags - post includes a pride flag or flags
• Combo flags
> • Flag stacks, Flag splices
• Aesthetic flags
• Joke flags
• Themed flags
• Attractional flags
• Recreated flags (flags that I have, for one reason or another, decided to recreate to provide my personal take on, or which I have recreated to maximize quality)
• Scrapped flags (flags that I no longer have a use for that anyone can claim)
Graphics / Moodboards / Icons / Wallpapers / Headers (usually reblogs)
Positivity / Affirmation / Validation
• Trans[/fem/masc] P / A / V
• Nonbinary P / A / V
• Intersex P / A / V
• [Orientation] P / A / V
• Pronoun P / A / VNew - a post specific for introducing terms that I have coined/flags I have designed
Mine - my flags
Original - my termsNot a flag
Just text
Not mine
Not originalFlag making - usually a post about the current process I use to make flags
Answered / Anon
Requested
Advice / Ally advice, Pronoun advice, Label advice, Name advice (advice for choosing a new name)
Resources / Trans resources, Intersex resources
References - sources that can be referenced in discourse
Other references - anything from xenine presentation references to terminology masterlist resources
Information - generally reblogs of informative articles or the like
Tips - tips for things like binding, packing, tucking, etc. (usually reblogs)
Coming out - (generally) tips on how to come out; possibly stories or anecdotes
Coining - a post dedicated to helping someone coin a term, but leaving it open to my followers to pitch in as well
Addition - a new term I’ve coined as an addition to a preexisting set of terms (usually not my own)
Spitballing - ideas I haven’t really decided on yet (& have opened for discussion)
Undecided - ideas I have for flag designs or terms that are open to being redesigned/renamed
Clarification - clarifying misconceptions people have about my blog/posts, or general misconceptions I’ve noticed in the community
Facts - often a concise post which explains a central argument to my stance on any given discourse topicMogai discussion - usually a post where I talk about how I feel about a particular term/aspect of the community and hope to have a discussion about it
Ally discussion - a discussion about good allyship to/within the MOGAI community (often involves intersectional allyship as well)
Linguistics discussion - concerning language, usually that which is used by the MOGAI community at large
Other discussions - not directly or perhaps solely relevant to the MOGAI community, but still something worth bringing up and discussing (ex: ableism)Organizing - usually organizing a set of terms or flags under one, coherent post
Housekeeping - usually an update or something I feel that needs to be remarked about the current state of my blog
Announcement - something I most definitely want my followers to know
My views - posts where I try to very clearly state my views for my followers (just so we’re all on the same page)
Not mogai
Reblog
Me - terms or themes that apply to me (usually terms I coined for myself)
Personal - the post might have a wider point or be open for discussion about a certain topic, but contains a lot of information about my personal life (usually anecdotes that contribute to my point)
Sphinx.txt - 100% personal (includes additions to reblogs)
Long post
Mogai - everything on my blog that is related to gender identities, orientations, terminology, flags, and the MOGAI community
• Trigger Warnings and Content Warnings •
Things tagged with “ment” have potentially triggering content mentioned in passing. Things tagged with “tw” are posts about potentially triggering content, or which reference such content very strongly. (Ex: “ableism ment” or “lesbophobia tw”)
Things tagged with “imagery” feature an image that may be triggering to some. (Ex: “knife imagery” or “nazi imagery”)
Any tags used that come after a “/” will almost always be tagged with whatever came before the “/” (so long as it’s relevant). (Ex: acemisia will also be tagged with amisia, though amisia may not always be tagged with acemisia)
Any tags which use the -misia suffix will also be tagged with -phobia for those who don’t have both tags filtered.Complete List of Triggers (as of now):
⌲ Ableism / Demonizing
⌲ Abuse (animal; child; domestic; sexual; substance / alcohol, drug)
⌲ Ageism
⌲ Alcohol
⌲ Amisia / Acemisia, Aromisia
⌲ Blood / Gore
⌲ Body horror
⌲ Body shaming / Fatmisia
⌲ Classism
⌲ Conversion therapy
⌲ CSA
⌲ Death / Murder, Suicide
⌲ Drugs
⌲ Eating disorder
⌲ Exclusionism / Exclusionist
⌲ Eye strain
⌲ D, f, h, k, n, q*, r, s, or t slur / [x] slur reclaimed
⌲ Fascism / Nazi
⌲ Flashing GIF
⌲ Genital ment tw
⌲ Homomisia / Lesbomisia
⌲ Intermisia
⌲ Knives
⌲ Misgendering
⌲ Misogyny
⌲ Mspecmisia / Bimisia, Panmisia, Polymisia, …
⌲ Nonbmisia
⌲ Needles
⌲ Pedophilia
⌲ Polyamisia
⌲ Racism / Antiblackness, Antisemitism, Colorism, Islamomisia
⌲ Radfem / SWERF, TERF
⌲ Rape / Corrective rape
⌲ Scarring
⌲ Self harm
⌲ Sex shaming
⌲ Sexism
⌲ Sexual harassment
⌲ Sexual violence
⌲ Suicide bait
⌲ Surgery
⌲ Transmed / Truscum
⌲ Transmisogyny
⌲ Transmisia
⌲ Victim blaming
⌲ Violence / Police brutality
⌲ XenomisiaComplete List of CWs (as of now):
⌲ Allosexism
⌲ Amatonormativity / Monoganormativity
⌲ Anon hate
⌲ Anti kink cw
⌲ Anti sex cw
⌲ Antifeminism cw
⌲ Censored cw (as in censored slurs)
⌲ Cissexism / Cisnormativity, Exorsexism / Binary language
⌲ Discourse cw (ace; butch femme; intersex; kink; mogai; mspec / mspec lesbian, pan; nonb; slur / queer; terf; tme; transmed)
⌲ Gatekeeping cw
⌲ Heterosexism / Heteronormativity
⌲ Medical cw
⌲ Monosexism
⌲ Negativity cw
⌲ Nsfw
⌲ PDA cw
⌲ Perisexism / Perinormativity
⌲ Politics cw
⌲ Profanity cw
⌲ Religion cw
⌲ Sex ment
⌲ Sex negativity cwDon’t be afraid to ask if you’d like something else to be tagged!
*Note: “Q slur” is only tagged if the word is used as a slur, and not as a self-applied identity
☀️My Archive☀️
Here’s an archive of all the terms I’ve coined. Most of these definitions have been drastically simplified from the definitions in their original coining posts.
• “Fiagender Spectrum” •
Definition: An umbrella term for all genders on the “female spectrum”
Coining Posts • Flag Downloads• “Miagender Spectrum” •
Definition: An umbrella term for all genders on the “male spectrum”
Coining Posts • Flag Downloads• “Liagender Spectrum” •
Definition: An umbrella term for all genders on both the male and female spectrums simultaneously or which exist “between” these two spectra
Coining Posts • Flag Downloads• “Niagender Spectrum” •
Definition: An umbrella term for all genders on the neutral spectrum
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Xiagender Spectrum” •
Definition: An umbrella term for all genders on the xeno spectrum
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Aiagender Spectrum” •
Definition: An umbrella term for all genders on the apora spectrum
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Agiagender Spectrum” •
Definition: An umbrella term for all genders on the agender spectrum
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Femnoire / Gendernoire Femme” •
Definition: A feminine/xenic gender identity that is influenced by neon colors as well as a gender that feels dark, mysterious, and “busy,” like a crowded street, but not overwhelmingly so
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Femdouxnoire / Femdoire / Femdoirfluide” •
Definition: Simultaneously being femnoire & femdoux; being fluid between femnoire & femdoux
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Genderinimicus” •
Definition: A gender that cannot be fully understood because of some mental block that causes feelings of anxiety, panic, or distress when it is “observed”
Coining Posts • Flag Download• “Sentiogenders” •
Definition: An umbrella for any gender term/identity which describes how a gender is experienced, but not exactly what that gender is
Coining Post• “Affinitive Genders” •
Definition: Any orientationgender wherein [a certain type of] genderness is only experienced through affinitive attraction, but not felt otherwise (e.g. feeling like a woman through your attraction to women, but feeling gender neutral otherwise)
Coining Post• “Sapphogender” •
Definition: A sapphic affinitive gender; when your gender can be described as “sapphic/wlw,” but not solely as “woman.” You may call yourself any number of fiagender or FINgender terms as a shorthand (e.g. woman, lunarian, or genderfae), but this genderness is only felt through sapphic attraction
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Vinciagender” •
Definition: A vincian affinitive gender; when your gender can be described as “vincian/mlm,” but not solely as “man.” You may call yourself any number of miagender or MINgender terms as a shorthand (e.g. man, solarian, or genderfaun), but this genderness is only felt through vincian attraction
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Enbiagender” •
Definition: An enbian affinitive gender; when your gender can be described as “enbian/nblnb,” but not fully as “nonbinary.” You may call yourself any number of nonbinary or abinary terms, but this genderness is only felt through enbian attraction
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Poudrettigender” •
Definition: A poudrettian/omnigay affinitive gender; when your gender can be described as both “vincian/mlm” and “sapphic/wlw,” but not solely as “man” and/or “woman.” You may call yourself any number of liagender or LINgender terms (e.g. femache, eclipsian, or genderfrith)/a combination of mia- or MIN- and fia- or FIN-gender terms as a shorthand, but this genderness is only felt through symmaic attraction
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Equarigender” •
Definition: An equaric/omnigay affinitive gender; when your gender can be described as “equaric” (or mlm, wlw, & nblnb), but such genderness is not felt outside of this attraction (especially useful for mostly abinary or agender individuals)
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Ambari(a)gender” •
Definition: A synonym for equarigender
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Julerigender” •
Definition: A juleric/omnistrayt affinitive gender; when your gender can be described as both “romeric/mlw” and “julietian/wlm,” but not solely as “man” and/or “woman.” You may call yourself any number of liagender or LINgender terms (e.g. femache, eclipsian, or genderfrith)/a combination of mia- or MIN- and fia- or FIN-gender terms as a shorthand, but this genderness is only felt through duaric attraction
Coining Posts • Flag Downloads• “Nibitigender” •
Nibiagender: an affinitive gender wherein one identifies mostly with binarity, but experiences nonbinarity through their attraction towards binary-identifying individuals (nblb)
Binitiagender: an affinitive gender wherein one identifies mostly with nonbinarity, but experiences binarity through their attraction towards nonbinary-identifying individuals (blnb)
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Ambiguity / Ambiguous Gender Expression” •
Definition: Another term for neutral gender expression; being neither masculine nor feminine (as opposed to a mix of the two)
Coining Post• “Synthic / Retraeic / Vaporic” •
Definition: A xenine/nonbinary expression term for someone whose gender expression is feminine (to some extent) and inspired by/related to aesthetics which are commonly associated with synthwave/retrowave/vaporwave music
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Tenderic” •
Definition: A xenine/nonbinary expression term for someone whose gender expression is feminine (to some extent) and inspired by soft, pastel aesthetics
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Inter-expressive” •
Definition: When an intersex person feels that their gender expression, whatever it may be, is deeply influenced by or intrinsically linked to their intersexuality
Coining Post • Flag Download
Intermasc • Interfemme • Interangi • Interambi • Interxene • Interouther• “Geno” •
Definition: Someone whose sensual attraction is diminished by the presence of romantic attraction, but regrows over time after a deep connection is forged with the object of said attraction
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Gurri” •
Definition: Someone whose sensual attraction is diminished by the presence of (q)platonic/alterous attraction, but regrows over time after a deep connection is forged with the object of said attraction
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Neularian” •
Definition: FINgender-aligned; alignment to gender femininity rather than womanhood
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Disconnected Nonbinary” •
Definition: When a nonbinary person, for one reason or another, is unbothered by being misgendered/perceived as binary (as a binary man, binary woman, or either)
Coining Post • Flag Downloads: [1] [2] [3] [4] [5] [6]• “Chaotiqueer” •
Definition: Queer anarchy
Coining Post• “Frayflux-” •
Definition: When the attraction one experiences toward another fades away after getting to know them better, only for it to (in some instances) spring up again after having gotten to know them significantly well/forming a deep emotional bond with them; a sort of mixture between fray-, grey-, and demi-
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Cinnabaric” •
Definition: wlw/nblnb, but not nblw or wlnb
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Heliodoran” •
Definition: mlm/nblnb, but not mlnb or nblm
Coining Post • Flag Downloads
• “Rubellitan” •
Definition: wlm/nblnb, but not nblm or wlnb
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Zirconic” •
Definition: mlw/nblnb, but not nblw or mlnb
Coining Post • Flag Downloads• “Equalitian” •
Definition: nblnb/nblm/nblw/wlw/mlm, but not mlnb, mlw, wlnb, or wlm
Coining Post • Flag Download• “Advenagender” •
Definition: An intersex person who would identify with their AGAB, but feels alienated from it due to perisexism
Coining Post • Flag Downloads: [1] [2] [3]• “Aethereum/Aethereusgenders” •
Definition: A gender related to Ancient Greece/Rome, their deities, and possibly the celestial bodies named after them.
Aetherdeus: An Aethereusgender related to masculinity and/or gods
Aetherdea: An Aethereusgender related to femininity and/or goddesses
Aetherdivum: An Aethereusgender related to androgyny and/or all deities/only androgynous deities
Coining Post • Flag Download
Aetherdeus • Aetherdea • Aeatherdivum
☀️Identity List☀️
Hotbar Genders & Labels
- Gay/Queer
- Transfem(me)
- Futch/Femme/Androgyne
- Polygender/Briaxygender
- Nonbinary Woman
- Proxvir
- Genderfree/Stellarian
- AlloAro
- Demi/Greyromantic
- Bi/Panromantic
- PolyamorousComplete List
☀️IDs + Pronouns☀️
“Brb, unlocking 7th dimensional hyper genders”
A list of all the terms I identify with & the pronoun sets I use. Most of the definitions provided are not the full definitions of these terms, but rather just the parts that are most relevant to me and why I identify with them. Additionally, here is my “gender ramble” and the list of flags which I claim.➺ Genderhoard / Survival Inventory:
Transfem/me - An AMAB person who identifies to some degree with womanhood/woman-alignment or nonbinary femininity
Transneutral - A trans person who identifies to some degree with gender neutrality
Transneufem - A trans person who identifies with gender neutrality & femininity to a greater extent than with masculinity
Transandrogynous - A trans person who identifies to some degree with gender androgyny
Transemphatic - Emphasizing the trans part of your identity as very important or the most important part
CINNgender - A descriptor for a gender identity that was partly or wholly chosen (“Chosen-In-Nature”)Polygender - Having multiple gender identities simultaneously
• Stellarian - Gender unalignment
• Briaxygender - An oxigender where one is mostly gender neutral, partially a (nonbinary) woman, and a little bit proxvir
• • Genderfree - A gender identity which is generally ambiguous, but definitely queer in nature. A blurry, cloudy, whimsical, free sense of gender
• • • Lunarset - A gender that is neutral (or slightly feminine), but with strong feminine influences
• Pangaygender - When your pan gay identity is so intrinsically tied to your gender that you absolutely cannot separate the two
• • Poudrettigender - When one’s gender can be described as both “mlm” and “wlw” even if one is not strictly a man/man-aligned or a woman/woman-aligned
• • • Violeqian - A gender in the quinbian system related to violets as a symbol of sapphic love/pride, community, strength, empowerment, and taking pride in one’s queer identity
• • • Nonbinary Woman - Woman, but in a nonbinary way
• • • • Artemian: Someone who is feminine-aligned
• • • • Polargender - A gender for a bipolar person whose gender changes depending on what type of episode they’re experiencing
• • • • • Femdoire - Fluidity between femnoire and femdoux
• • • • • • Syntharum: When one’s gender identity is influenced by their synesthesia
• • • • • Futch - An expression of both queer femininity and masculinity, beyond simply gender presentation, as an identity of essential gender non-conformity and sapphic attraction
• • • • • • Futchgender - A gender influenced by one’s futch identity
• • • • • • Futchqueer - A futchgender experience defined by inherent (gender)queerness
• • • • Woman-related - An umbrella term for people who aren’t women or woman aligned at all but feel like their gender is in the same category that woman is
• • • Proxvir - A gender relative to male, but is something separate and entirely on it’s own; “male adjacent”
• • • • Helian: Someone who is male-aligned; someone whose gender experiences are similar to men
• • • • Man-related - An umbrella term for people who aren’t men or man aligned at all but feel like their gender is in the same category that man is
• • • • Cusper - An identity defined by feeling like one is on the “cusp” between being [transfeminine] and a gender non-conforming [mlm]
• • • • • Remnocian: A transneutral or transfeminine person who feels no attachment to masculinity but their attraction to men still feels gay
• • • • • • Postmascuium - Having a connection to being male simply by virtue of having been assigned male at birth
• • • • • • Advenavir - An AMAB intersex person who would identify as male/gendervir, but feels alienated from maleness due to perisexism• Genderorchid - Experiencing gender through the lens of genderlessness
• • Veneerian - When one feels essentially genderless but “wears” other genders on top
• • Performagender - A gender that one doesn’t necessarily connect to, but uses as a performance
• • • Formaregec - When one’s gender is neutral and influenced by their gender-nonconformity, where nonconformity is essentially part of their gender experience
• • • • Aesthete - Someone who is less focused on their gender or what is perceived as their gender and is focused on being whatever they please and looking however they please
• • • • • Aetherdea - An Aethereusgender with a specific link to ancient/idealized femininity, derived from the goddesses Venus and Athena and the planets Venus and Neptune
• • • • • Venebellent - A gender related to both the human perception of the celestial bodies of Venus and Neptune as beautiful, magnificent, and even divine, and to the often violent and inhospitable nature of these planets. In other words, a gender that is strongly influenced by and exists between beauty and violence, particularly in relation to nature and outer space
• • Pensgender - When one’s gender does not feel as though it exists until it is actively being considered
• • Genderinimicus - When one’s gender cannot be fully understood due to some mental block that makes it difficult to “observe”
• • Gendereaux - Feeling a detachment from the very concept of gender but identifying with many nonbinary experiences/identities
• • • Nebulatrans - Definitely knowing you are not cisgender, but due to neurodivergency, finding a label ID quite difficult and you may or may not collect or coin multiple terms to describe how you feel
• • • Integender - Where one’s gender identity is intrinsically tied to being intersex
• • • Colligogender - When one collects genders (and pride flags) they identify with
• • Outergender - A gender characterized by dysphoria, alienation and feeling wrong, different from everyone else. Fluctuates in clarity and definition. May accompany C-PTSD
• • • Distrigender - A gender caused by the inability or difficulty to connect to a certain gender due to trauma and/or abuse caused by a parent and/or guardian• Petownic - A gender that is influenced by all the pets one presently owns; it is only strongly felt when in proximity of the pets and takes on their traits (e.g. size, color, gender, mannerisms, etc.)
• • Catgender - A gender related to cats
• • Chinchillagender - A gender related to chinchillas
• • Fancyratic - A gender influenced by owning a fancy rat as a pet
• • Greentibarbic - A gender influenced by owning a green tiger barb as a pet
• • Albitibarbic - A gender influenced by owning an albino tiger barb as a pet
• • Shepnoiric - A gender influenced by owning a black German shepherd as a pet➺ Expressions:
Gender Non-conforming - One whose appearance and behaviour does not reflect the gender roles expected of them
Androgyne - (With regards to presentation) Someone who expresses a mix of both femininity and masculinity or between the two; a person with an androgynous gender presentation
• Laven - A nonbinary person who presents somewhere between feminine and androgynous
Femme - (In the context of sapphic attraction) Embodying and expressing queer femininity, which is essentially gender-nonconforming
• Interfemme - When one’s feminine gender expression is inherently linked to them being intersex
Synthic - A feminine/xenic expression related to synthwave
Tenderic - A feminine/xenic expression related to softness and pastel colors➺ Orientations:
Bi/panromantic - Feeling romantic attraction regardless of gender
Bi/pan lesbian - Being bi/pan and strongly identifying with lesbianism as an umbrella for sapphic attraction; emphasizing one’s sapphic attraction as very important to them
Aliquisromantic - Where physical attraction is not a prerequisite for romantic attractionPan gay - Being attracted to all genders and always feeling like this attraction is gay/gai/“same-gendered”; a synonym for equaric
• Rosaenic - A nonbinary person who considers all of their attractions to be gay
Equalitian - mlm, wlw, nblnb, nblm, nblw
• Vincian/MLM
• Sapphic/WLW
• Cypric/NBLNB
• Toric/NBLM
• Trixic/NBLWPercamabqueer: Feeling that one’s attraction to men is queer partly due to the fact that one is amab and that society thus perceives that attraction as queer
• Lumibrous - An orientation where your attraction to women and nonbinary people is clear and gay, and your attraction to men and heavily man-aligned people is more murky, but still queer
• • Shadowvincian - Feeling a connection to the MLM/vincian label, but struggling to identify with it fully due to dysphoria over being perceived as a manGreyromantic - Feeling romantic attraction very rarely
• Demiromantic - Unable to experience romantic attraction without the existence of a very strong platonic bond
• Aroflex: Experiencing a less intense, consistent form of attraction that is somewhere between romantic and queerplatonic attraction while one’s feelings towards romance/romantic gestures fluctuates
• • Paradox aro - Experiencing love in a disconnected way; not fully understanding what love is and if one feels it or not; experiencing some types of love but not others
AlloAro - Being arospec without being acespec; experiencing sexual attraction without romantic attractionFrayfluxsexual - Being frequently attracted to strangers/acquaintances only; that attraction fades once you’ve gotten to know them better, but (very rarely) it may reappear once you’ve forged a deep connection with them (a mix of grey-, fray-, and demi-sexual)
Mascsexual - Attraction to masculine gender presentation, generally regardless of gender identityPanalterous - Feeling alterous attraction regardless of gender
Geno - Someone whose sensual attraction is diminished by the presence of romantic attraction, but regrows over time after a deep connection is forged with the object of said attraction
Plurian - Being both mspec and polyamourous➺ **__Pronoun Set
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All these labels were starting to feel a bit overwhelming to me, so I decided that I would just fully explain my experience with gender and how each label applies to me, solely for my own benefit. It’s very disjointed, but you can read it if you’re curious.
Sometimes I feel like my gender is more or less nonexistent until I decide to “look” at it [pensgender], but when I look at it, I don’t know what it’s supposed to be — just a vague idea — and trying to pinpoint it exactly can cause me a great deal of mental stress [genderinimicus]. I used to dislike calling myself a woman [distrigender] and, in general, I feel very disconnected from the concept of gender, though I think this is likely a combination of various factors — being sapphic, being intersex, growing up in an extremely transmisogynistic environment, possibly having ADHD, etc. [integender, nebulatrans, outergender]. Even so, I identify with a lot of different nonbinary terms as an attempt to determine and explain all these complicated feelings and make sense of my relationship to gender [gendereaux, genderhoarder/polygender] (although, for various reasons, I try to limit the total number of terms with which I identify [survival inventory]).I often refer to myself as a (nonbinary) trans woman [hotbar genders], although doing so sometimes feels like compromising my identity, making myself more palatable, more “digestible” for cis society. And that is certainly one of the reasons why I sometimes refer to myself this way — It’s just not worth being harassed by other trans and nonbinary people for being “too weird” or “making the community look bad.” But the other reason why I do it is because I guess I’m what you could call a “political trans woman”: I feel my experiences with gender (particularly experiences with patriarchal violence) have a lot in common with those of many women (particularly trans women). I may not identify entirely as a woman (at least not without the very important qualification of “nonbinary”), but transfeminism as a movement represents my interests, and although transfeminine nonwomen should absolutely be recognized by and prioritized in transfeminist activism, I personally don’t mind assuming the moniker “trans woman” as a way of representing my allyship. Woman-related is, I think, the best way to describe this.Beyond the politics, I feel essentially genderless, but there are gendered feelings in how I present [genderorchid, veneerian]: My gender is something I wear in both a literal and metaphorical sense [performagender, CINNgender], and that “costume” tends to be inspired by essential gender-nonconformity [formaregec] and aestheticism [aesthete, aetherdea, venebellent]. For me, gender is quite literally a dress-up game, and it’s for this reason that I have a lot of genders simultaneously which represent different aspects of who I am in different contexts [again, pensgender]. For example, when I consider my attraction to women, I feel like a nonbinary woman [violeqian], and when I consider my attraction to men, I feel proxvir (which together can be described as poudrettigender or pangaygender). Altogether, this can be summarized as briaxygender, which is what I’d say I identify as primarily, although my gender sort of has differing layers of complexity, with briaxygender being the most overly-simplified.For example, the “nonbinary” part of my nonbinary womanhood goes a little deeper: it’s a xenogendered experience, best explained through a comparison to colors and textures [syntharum]. It sometimes feels light, airy, and pastel, and sometimes dark, crowded, and neon [femdoire], and this tends to alternate based on what kind of mood episode I’m experiencing [polargender]. As my gender is heavily influenced by my presentation and vice versa, this fluidity also affects whether I feel more connected to tenderic expression or synthic expression.Additionally, my attraction to men does feel a bit more complicated than just “mlm”; I connect with the identity toric (nblm), and sometimes I wonder if I could possibly be nbwlm (nonbinary & fiagender, attracted to men). Given that it took me so long to feel comfortable with my own womanhood, after having identified as a gay man/mlm for so long, it’s difficult to tell the difference now between being transfeminine and gender-nonconforming [cusper]. Any connection I may feel to masculinity or maleness may simply come from having perceived myself as a man for so long [postmascuium]. But, on the other hand, the alienation I have always felt from my assigned gender may be the result of internalized perisexism [advenavir]. What I do know for certain is that my attraction to men feels “gay” in some way [remnocian], and I find “proxvir” (and man-related/helian) to be a comfortable descriptor for myself.I also experience another branch of xenogenders in the context of being near or interacting with my pets [petownic - catgender, chinchillagender, fancyratic, greentibarbic, albitibarbic, shepnoiric]. I feel like my gender takes on the traits of these animals when I’m near them, especially with regards to color.When I try to look beneath these layers of situational/presentational genders, I find nothing. No essentially gendered feeling, just a sort of ambivalent neutrality coupled with absolute liberation from the binary: “a blurry, cloudy, whimsical, free sense of gender” [genderfree, stellarian, transneutral]. Even so, (trans)femininity is particularly important to my sense of gender and, if anything, contributes to this sense of liberation (even if it is “genderless femininity” [lunarset/artemian]). This is likely one of the reasons why being trans is so important to me [transemphasis].Another experience of mine affected by my mood are my perceptions of masculinity and femininity. The combination of being a neurodivergent, intersex, sapphic trans woman makes it very difficult for me to fully understand these concepts and how I relate to them. As stated, femininity is important to my sense of liberation, but it can feel oppressively conformist at times (like I’m only performing femininity to be accepted as a woman), or feel like it’s caused by something beyond my control [interfemme]. This is why the concept of queer femininity [femme] is so important to me, but why my identity is somewhere beyond the categorizations of “masculine” or “feminine” [futch, futchgender, futchqueer]. It’s not just that my identity is in between or a mix of the two; it just can’t be defined in relation to those categories (without some element of essential queerness). For me, being futch is a way of incorporating the complexities of my identity and my rejection of the binary into the way I perform my gender (especially within the specific context of sapphic attraction).Even so, I do like to think of myself as an androgyne/transandrogynous. Seeing as I’m intersex, I would be considered androgynous regardless of how I identify, so embracing my androgyny feels like a powerful reclamation of that typecasting. It also feels like a good way of expressing my nonbinarity [laven], sapphic womanhood, and queer femininity (as femme doesn’t always/just mean feminine).
Butch and Fem(me) are not Lesbian-Exclusive Identities
(Sources mainly compiled from these two posts. I don’t agree with everything they say and I have a lot of issues with the person who provided sources on the first post, but I felt like giving credit where credit is due. This is a compilation of sources about the histories of these terms and how they’re used in different contexts. Read through and take from them what you will.)Here’s a carrd which compiles the history of these terms (and debunks the myth that they’re lesbian-exclusive) better than I can. Honestly, just read this instead.- How BUTCH Voices defines butch
- “Butch identity is a reclamation of masculine performance”
- The ideas which constitute butch identity are not clearly defined (NSFW warning)
- The role butchness plays in transness and nonbinarity
- History of the term
- Butch used in polari
- Queer femininity
- Femme as “an identity deeply tied to communities who struggle against heterosexism”
- The evolution of femme identity
- Femme identity means different things to different people
- What femme means to femme-identified men
- Femme vs Feminine
- Femme is an identity for all non-cishet people (I reccomend browsing this entire website for more information)
- Bi women’s relationships to femininity and womanhood can be equally as complicated as lesbian women’s
- Patriarchy and subversive femininity
- “Femme Trans Men On What You Should Know About Gender Expression”
- “A Brief His and Herstory of Butch And Femme”
- LGBTQ+ organizations, gay magazines, books, comics, ballroom culture, and academic studies using butch and femme inclusively
- The shared history between the bi and lesbian communities (Further reading)
- “Butch/Femme Research Guide”
- These terms as they were used in ballroom culture
- How these terms have evolved & other lenses through which to consider them
- Nonbinary butches, mspec femmes, gender fluidity, and non-conformity
- Forcing the terms “stag/doe/tomcat” onto bi women of color is racist, especially the comparison to deer (TW: antiBlackness)